Love Does Not Hurt

Are parents really disciplining their children when they hit them? 
Is beating the right choice?

It has always been a controversial issue. Should parents hit their children?

In some cultures parents beat their children for the most insignificant reasons, and they are allowed to do so. They can do it whenever and wherever they want to. The children, on their site, shall not complain and they have to blindly obey their parents. In my opinion hitting your children is violent act and the parents who insist on physically abuse their children should be punished by the law.

When I say that you should not hit you children I do not mean that you should let them do whatever they want, not at all. Parents are supposed to educate and discipline their children, indeed. However some parents exaggerate and they go to far with the beating.

 A couple of years ago I was walking to school when I saw a young mother hit her newborn baby on the butt, with a sandal. The baby would not stop crying and she, trying to make her stop, took off her sandal and spanked him. Off course, that it did not make the baby stop mourning. He even got louder and the mom angrier. I crossed the road and approached them. I asked the mom if I could hold the baby for a little bit. Still swearing at the innocent baby she handed me him. I gently hold him in my arms and rocked back and forth. After a few minutes the baby fell asleep. I told the mom that she should try to make him fall asleep instead of hitting him. Apparently ignoring my advice, she told me to go take care of my children, not hers. She grabbed her baby and walked away. I was so astonished by the event; I did not know people could get so low and have the courage to hit a baby.

It is some kind of impulse. Parents feel the urge to strike their children sometimes for the most insignificant reasons. For example, if your son got a D- on his last math quiz, you should not use a low test score as a reason to spank him. The use of violence is not going to help him get any better. Instead you should try to talk to him and see what is going on, offer help.

The problem is that they cannot have a conversation with their children. Some parents, usually the fathers, tend to raise their voices when they talk to their children. They say they are trying to gain their respect. Seriously? So you really think intimidation brings respect? It sure brings scare and fright. Some kids will not even look their parents in the eyes, they try to avoid them.

Children misbehave all the time. They are always getting in trouble and defying their parents. But they are still children. They do not know how to do any better and they are just getting used to the outside world. We should give our children a break and let them grow up.
Please do not hit you children. =D